Is Boudoir Really For Me?

What if I’m Not a Model?

What if…

I'm not a model, I'm not good enough, it's not worth it if I don't think I'll look good, I don't have a reason, I need to loose weight, I've done them with a friend and hated them... 🚫I hear TONS of excuses as to why people don't want to book a session and I'm here to tell you that the pros outweigh your cons... 🙌🏽You don't have to be a model because I'm here to guide the posing process. You are good enough, don't let anyone tell you otherwise! Ok listen... You're going to look AMAZING with my years of experience and expertise in the field, I've been shooting professionally for 10 years and have photographed well over 100 boudoir sessions and I know for a fact that you are going to fall in love with yourself! 🌴Okay but like your reason for a session doesn't have to be marriage, anniversary, Valentine's day. It could be for self love therapy, celebration of your 1,2,3,4,5th kid, it could be because you just want to have new wall art in your bedroom and you want it to be of you, maybe you just bought a new set of lingerie you love? You don't even need a reason! 🙄 So this one is the biggest misconception... "I need to lose weight first" is such a lie. Understandable that you might be on a fitness journey to becoming stronger, losing weight, and eating more healthy... But, self love is so important at any stage. Could you imagine getting a boudoir session and seeing how amazing you look with your here and now, having an overflowing confidence like no other and then BAM you hit you goals look back at those photos and say WOW I was as hot in those photos as I am now... Then do another session and Rick that one too! Boudoir isn't a "one time thing" it's a "I hit a goal or had a life event or just because thing" so you can cut that shit out because even as valid as your concerns are, you have the support! 📷 Ok... So if you had these done by a friend and even if they were a photographer, it's not even the same... It was a HUGE learning curve for me to go from weddings to boudoir and I'll admit the photos didn't start out too great, but over time shooting and learning and doing the poses myself, I began to realize this isn't something you can pick up overnight.

This is probably an extremely sensitive topic, but nothing worthwhile was ever gained from holding back... I feel like we all have at least one issue with the image that we create of ourselves, making it difficult to accept what we look like in the mirror and sometimes even accept love from others. Sometimes it's something we can change with time and effort and other times it's not something we can change…

It's time to accept ourselves, stop comparing our outward appearance to others, and realize what's inside makes what's outside beautiful…

Be vulnerable for just a moment in time, because through the scope of others (when we let down those walls we put up for ourselves.) I have found that we can see who we truly are. When we take a step back and finally accept ourselves, we can begin to repair, we can hold our heads up high, and become more confident in our own bodies…

Just remember nothing of value was ever gained without pushing through a trial…

Can I get a show of hands 🙌🏽 for all of the other parents, out there that are dealing with anxiety and just need a little "me time" to ground those feelings! 🤯 But then those thoughts of insecurity start creeping up on you, fueled by that anxiety. You want to do something for yourself, but don't... 😞 It's something I struggle with as well... Wanting to do one thing but end up doing another to put those anxious feelings at bay. But I'm working on breaking those chains that bind me, breathing more, and doing more for myself even if it is just something I "want" because wants can be needs too... 🔥 So... Just do something for yourself today!

Accepting every version of yourself is one of the most difficult tasks we seek to accomplish... But with it will come immeasurable strength, confidence, and will power... STOP comparing your chapter 1 to others chapter 10, begin to read your own pages and know that this is the story that was created specifically for YOU!

Some of you are afraid... Afraid to fall in love with yourself, to push yourself, to see a more confident version of yourself. You fear that you won't be "good enough" that you "can't possibly accept yourself" or maybe it's about letting go or the reins a little and opening up to something that's out of your comfort zone... 💛 But... Sometimes the greatest rewards come from uncomfortable experiences! ♥️ Take it step by step... Small steps... On your journey to personal acceptance, and each one of those steps brings you closer to that goal of greater self love... 💗I hope you take the first step today and just tell yourself "I am willing to try for that first step!"

I'm going to lean into you a little today about flaws... So, we all have this thing where we will look in the mirror and see some crazy things that we think everyone else sees and judge's us for. Or maybe we just judge ourself for... (For me I'm just a little self conscious about thinning hair.) But I've noticed no one really cares and most people pay it no attention, I only ever hear about it from other guys with the same thing going on, so it's laughable! 😅 For you it's something different, something no one else notices... Of maybe they do, but instead of seeing a flaw they see something unique that makes you different, it makes you YOU... But who cares what they have to say right? You are only here to accept their negative comments and not the positive ones... 🙄 I feel like that's another thing we all do, FOCUS on the bad... ♥️ So let's STOP doing that to ourselves right NOW, let's look in the mirror, see those "flaws" and own them, they are a part of you... Your flaws don't define you but they are a part of what makes you unique. You are complex, you are magical, you are everything you ever were, are, and will be... Be brave and face yourself, for we are our own worst enemy!

Instead of feeling bad about yourself, let's do a little self reflection on all the good things about YOU. Go ahead and write down 5 things that you like/ love about yourself and let's focus on those things as the foundation to start building up confidence. It can be anything that you admire about yourself! (The way nose scrunches or snort when you laugh, your love for puppies, the way you veiw the world, anything!)

When is the last time you really invested in yourself? Improving your mindset, quality of life, or even just because you feel like it would be worth while. Whether it be a gym membership to grow stronger, or a Starbucks credit card so you can get your coffee fix. You're allowed to want and have things for no reason at all... So what's stopping you from investing in an experience that will build up your confidence, help embrace sexuality (in spite of societies disassociation of sexual norms) and produce an amazing piece of art you can't get anywhere else? 🔥 Just do something for "YOU" for a change, embrace every part of yourself and don't let anything stop you!